先日私に性の相談を持ち掛けてきた60代後半の女性。こちらの女性にはお子さんもいらっしゃるのでブログのタイトルにさせていただいた「60代の処女」というのは、もちろん事実上の処女ではありません。そうだとしたら、何が私にとって処女と感じさせたのか？

それは日本人女性の深刻な問題でもあるセックスレス問題であり、今後ますます深刻な問題になるだろう高齢者の性事情につながる話です。

相談者の女性は60代後半にも関わらず見た目が若々しく、髪は白髪がひとつも無いフサフサで綺麗な黒髪が自慢。上品で明るく、セレブなマダムといった印象です。しかし、彼女の唯一の悩みはもう20年以上も男性と性関係を断っていることでした。

性関係がなくなった20年間の間に彼女にも何度か素敵な男性が現れ、お付き合いをしていく中で体の関係を持つことになったそうです。でも、いざ最終段階になると膣が痛くてとてもじゃないけど男性器を挿入することができない。そんなことを繰り返しているうちに自分の身体に自信を喪失してしまい「何とかならないだろうか？」と私のところに相談に来たという経緯になります。

そもそも人間の身体というのは脳をはじめ体の各パーツなど、使用頻度が少なくなると退化してしまう特徴があります。年配の方が仕事を退職して毎日何もしないでいると、早々に物忘れがひどくなったり、足腰が弱くなり歩行機能に障害が生じたり・・・

性に関しても全く同じで、女性器に関して言えば膣がカチカチに硬くなってしまい、それは高齢者にかかわらず使用頻度が薄くなると機能の低下は40代の女性でも同じようなことが起こり得ます。その膣の硬くなった状態がまさに処女と同じような状態で、処女膜さえ無いもの男性器を挿入すると痛くて仕方ない。嘘だと思うかもしれませんが、その女性の膣の状態を調べると膣の入り口がプラスチックのように固くなっていました。

私が今までお話を伺ってきた女性のほとんどはセルフプレジャー（オナニー）をしているとお答えになりますが、彼女たちが嗜好を凝らしているのは外側の刺激（つまりクリトリスへの刺激）にとどまります。でも肝心なのは膣内であり、それがセックスの中イキにもつながってくる。外側だけ刺激しても一瞬の強い快楽しか得ることしかできず、放置された膣内はいつまでたっても感度が上がらない、終いには硬くなってしまう・・・ということが起こり得るわけです。

相談者の60代彼女には男性器の形をしたグッズを差し上げ「これを毎日使って膣内が柔らかくなるようにほぐしてください」と伝えました。

60代、70代と歳を重ねてもセックスライフをより楽しめるような社会になれば幸せですね。

無源

A woman in her late 60s recently approached me for sexual advice. This woman has children, so the “virgin in her 60s,” which I made the title of my blog, is not, of course, a virtual virgin. If so, what made me feel like a virgin?

It is the issue of sexlessness, which is a serious problem for Japanese women, and a story that leads to the sexual situation of the elderly, which will become an increasingly serious problem in the future.

The woman who consulted with me is young looking despite being in her late 60s, and she boasts of her hair, which is full and beautifully black with not a single gray hair. She is elegant, cheerful, and gives the impression of a celebrity madam. Her only problem, however, is that she has been abstaining from sexual relations with men for more than 20 years.

During the 20 years of no sexual relationship, she had several wonderful men come into her life, and in the course of their relationships, they had physical relations with each other. But when it came to the final stage, her vagina was so painful that she could not insert the male genitalia even though it was not very comfortable. After repeating such a situation, she lost confidence in her own body and came to me for advice, “Is there anything I can do?” I am sure that you will be able to find a solution to your problem.

The human body, including the brain and other body parts, degenerates when it is used infrequently. If an elderly person retires from work and does nothing every day, he or she may quickly become forgetful, or his or her legs and hips may weaken, impairing the ability to walk.

The same thing can happen to the female genitalia, even to women in their 40s, as the vagina stiffens and the function of the vagina deteriorates with less frequent use, regardless of age. The hardened vagina is exactly like a virgin’s, and it is painful to insert a male organ that does not even have a virgin membrane. You may think this is a lie, but when I examined the condition of this woman’s vagina, I found that the entrance to the vagina was hardened like plastic.

Most of the women I have talked to tell me that they engage in self-pleasure (masturbation), but their preference is limited to external stimulation (i.e., stimulation of the clitoris). But the key is inside the vagina, and that is also what makes them come inside during sex. Stimulating only the outside can only give a momentary strong pleasure, and a neglected vagina will never become sensitive, and eventually it will become hard… This can happen.

I gave the consultant’s girlfriend, who is in her 60s, a toy in the shape of a male organ and told her to use it every day to soften her vagina.

I would be happy if our society could make it possible for people to enjoy their sex lives even as they age into their 60s and 70s.

Mugen.